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Being New to Dating Doesn’t Have to Be Scary


If you’re new to dating or even just returning after a very long hiatus, then chances are that you’re nervous, anxious and downright scared. While some of us may enjoy the nerves and butterflies that come from dating, there are a good few that wonder why they put themselves through it at all! But as scary as it may be, it’s a small price to pay for the chance to meet someone incredible…and the fun that you can have along the way ain’t bad either.

If you want to get back into the dating scene then you’re going to have to do something about those nerves. I know, it’s easier said than done right? Well I’m not expecting you to just get over it; I’m just saying that you should fake it! You cannot begin to imagine the difference that attitude makes. Confidence is sexy. You need to find a way to start feeling and believing that you are as great as you wish others would see you and until you really start to feel it and believe it, you really will just have to act as if you do! Try it and see how quickly you start to feel comfortable and even better see what a difference it makes in the way others treat you when start walking with an air of confidence about you. My favorite quote of all time has to be one by Sophia Loren where she is talking about sex appeal and said, “It’s 50 percent what you’ve got and 50 percent what people think you’ve got.” That from a woman who has been considered one of the sexiest people alive for over 60 years now!! If she believes it then it must be true, no?

Something else that you need to do in order to make the most of your dating life is to take some of the pressure off of yourself and those that you do date in regard to finding the ONE. Yes, you’re dating in hopes of finding a solid and happy commitment, but more than anything dating needs to be about the moment and making the most of it. Go on dates, enjoy the time you spend with that person and make it about having fun and getting to know the other person and see where it goes without trying to force it or expect it to lead to the altar. Not everyone you go out with is going to be a good match for you no matter how much you want them to be, so get out there, try to be selective in terms of dating people that you will you could have a good time with and leave anything beyond that up to chance and let the cards fall where they may. This carefree and laid back attitude will not only make dating easier but will also make you more appealing to the people you go out with. Now get out there and see what happens and don’t forget to have fun. Being new to dating is actually a feeling that you should savor, even if right this second it borders on nausea!