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Marriage in the western world is usually a legal agreement between a man and a woman that comes with certain legal and social recognition, sanctions, and responsibilities. People marry for many different reasons. Some marriages are for economic reasons while others marriages happen because of family, social, or religious traditions. Marriage is a very old custom that began as a way for feuding tribes or communities to make allies. If a number of different groups of people were at war with each other, one of those groups might decide to join forces with another group to make them stronger and to defeat a common enemy.
The way these groups would maintain peace amongst each other was to give their daughters as gifts to young men in the other groups. Because the young man and women remained involved with their families, they brought together the different groups, which were forced to interact. Marriage has changed a lo since then and has taken on all sorts of new meanings for people. Sadly, about half of today’s marriages end in divorce. This may be because it’s easier to get divorced than it used to be and because people are getting married for the wrong reasons. Women used to be a lot more dependent on men but since the women’s rights movement in North America, women have become increasingly more independent and are no longer forced to stay in a bad marriage because they can support themselves financially without their husband’s help. Another attitude that often leads to marriage failure is thinking that marriage is a romantic symbol of a couple’s love for one another.
In reality, a marriage will challenge your relationship, not reinforce it or make it easier. There are countless studies of what makes a good marriage, but there are a few things they tend to have in common. For a marriage to be successful, most experts agree that marriage partners should be best friends above all; they should also like each other as people and find each other more and more interesting as they grow together.
Marriage partners should also have shared life goals and should really genuinely want their relationship to last. If both partners feel and act this way and are well able to communicate their thoughts and feelings to one another, their marriage is more likely to be a success. Marriage still shouldn’t be taken too lightly because if a marriage fails, there are often children involved who suffer from it. A lot of people feel the need tog et married before they have children and just because they got married, they think they need to have children. If you’re considering marriage, that’s fine, but don’t bring children into the picture until you’re sure you’ve made the right decision and you feel like your marriage will hold up in the long run. Divorce however, is not the only way to terminate a marriage. You could also have your marriage annulled. A marriage annulment usually happens when the marriage is not valid from the start.
Though arranged marriages aren’t common in North America, there are plenty of arranged marriages in other parts of the world, especially in Africa and Asia. In India, arranged marriage is not unusual but is more a thing of the wealthy. Parents may arrange marriages for their children before they are even born. The reasons for arranged marriages are usually financial, because a girl’s parents want to find a wealthy husband for her. In other parts of the world, arranged marriages are less strict and intense and it’s not as big a deal if someone vetoes their arranged marriage partner. Another type of arranged marriage often happens in polygamist communities. When parents find a marriage partner for their children, they focus on their children’s upbringing and collecting a dowry for their daughter. Dowries are often sums of money given to the groom’s family in exchange for their son taking their daughter.
Gay marriage, commonly referred to as same sex marriage, is very slowly becoming more accepted worldwide. In a number of countries already, including Spain, South Africa, and Belgium, same sex marriage is allowed and it’s not just in a civil union kind of why – they actually refer to it as same sex marriage. Then there are those places like Mississippi that outlaw gay marriage altogether, making any sort of same-sex marriage-like union illegal. Gay marriage is still a hot topic around the world because many people hold old prejudices against gay people. Some argue that gay marriage is unnatural and should not be considered in the same category as straight marriage because a gay married coupe cannot have children together.
Here are standard civil marriage vows that a man and woman make to each other when they get married. These marriage vows are often elaborated on according to the married couple’s religious beliefs, traditions, and so on. Some couples even go so far as to write their own marriage vows.
Keep copies of all your marriage records because you never know when you’lll need them. You often need original copies of marriage certificates if applying for a new passport, for example. Marriage records are also a useful tool for people trying to trace their ancestry.
If things are getting rough in your marriage, you may want to look into getting some marriage counseling. Marriage counseling can be expensive, but it’s often worth it if you can save your marriage. You don’t even necessarily have to go to a marriage counselor for marriage counseling. Instead, you and your partner can get some marriage counseling books at the library and study them yourselves. It might be a fun activity to do together. If you’re worried that your marriage might be unstable, don’t wait until it’s too late to go for marriage counseling.