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Marriage on the Mind
– Is it beneficial or catastrophic for your dating life?
I know that the majority of us go out on dates in hopes of
meeting the right person for marriage.
That’s what dating is—an opportunity to try different people on for size in hopes
that we’ll find the one that fits just right. The thing is, do you date
strictly with marriage on the mind? By this I mean someone who goes out with
someone and is picking china patterns in their mind before the appetizers even
make it to the table! Don’t laugh! You don’t know the mind of some men and
women who are in their 30’s and unmarried! They can be downright pushy when it
comes to their quest to find someone for marriage…anyone sometimes!
Wanting to meet someone to love and cherish in sickness and
in health and all that stuff is fine and natural, but when you’re so focused on
marriage that you begin to rush every potential relationship to the altar, then
you’re asking for trouble. Not only do you risk pushing—more like scaring—your
dates away, but what happens if your mad dash does get you to the altar in
record time? You could very possibly be ending up with the wrong person and it
won’t be long before even that shiny gold band on your left finger isn’t enough
to tolerate him or her for! Your goal when dating should always be to
ultimately find the RIGHT one, not just anyone who’s willing. Actually, scratch
that! You should try to not even think about it in terms of marriage until
you’ve at least made it past the first couple of dates. I’m not saying that you
should give up on the idea of marriage or anything and you mostly definitely
shouldn’t lower your standards in anyway, but just lighten up! Having an idea
of what you want in a partner is good thing, but having marriage on the mind
and losing sight of everything else will backfire!
If you’re going out on dates as a part of a desperate search
for marriage; your dates will smell your desperation pretty quickly. Even if
you think that you’re playing it cool, most people can spot a player. And I gotta
say; men more than anything will notice the first sign of a woman who is too
focused on marriage and rushing the relationship. As a matter of fact, guys
seem to have a knack for sensing that within the first 3 minutes of a date! The
result; their super-sensitive fight or flight reaction kicks in and they almost
always will opt to go with flight!! No one wants to date someone who has an
ulterior motive and while wanting marriage isn’t exactly criminal behavior or
anything; being out for that alone isn’t something that anyone wants to be a
part of if you’re basically willing to settle for anyone. Who wants to be
settled for? Would you?
The point of all of this, incase you haven’t already gotten
it, is to enjoy dating and enjoy meeting new people and hold out for the one
who makes your knees weak and your heart jump. Lighten up, keep an open mind
and don’t try to force anything. You’ll find him or her when it’s time.
