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Making A Long Distance Relationship Work
There’s no denying it; long distance relationships but then again, dating is someone who lives locally isn’t always a piece of cake either! You can’t control who you fall in love with no matter how hard you try and sometimes you fall for someone in a less than perfect situation and geographical challenges definitely count as one of those situations. So what do you do, kiss the chance at true love goodbye because of a few miles? You could, but it would be silly to do without at least giving it a try, don’t you think?
Making a long distance relationship work will be challenging and truthfully, not everyone is cut out for this sort of thing so the first thing you’ve gotta do is weigh the pros and cons before letting things go to far. Think about things like how often you will get to see each other in person. Does one of you have a job that requires you to visit their city often? Can you both afford the expense of flying/driving/taking a train out to see each other more often than not? Before you even think about those things, how about finding out for sure that you both want the same things out of the relationship and life in general. The last thing you want to do is invest your time and energy and Air Miles into a relationship that doesn’t really have a future! If one of you wants marriage and kids and the other doesn’t, then regardless of how they make your heart go a flutter, you’d probably be best off to end things…immediately.
If you’ve made up your mind that this is a relationship worth pursuing in spit of the miles between you, then it’s time to get serious about making it work and work as smoothly as possible. Long distance dating requires a lot of trust and even someone who feels secure in their relationship will still once in awhile have a moment of doubt or a bad night alone that leads to suspicions and concerns. I won’t even begin to try to tell you how to feel, but I can suggest not worrying about the things that you can’t control. And just to be clear; a bad night of feeling insecure is not the same as a gut instinct that someone is being unfaithful or that something isn’t quite right. ALWAYS go with your gut! If you find yourself constantly worrying that you’re partner is up to no good, then you’re with the wrong person and need to move on.
Being apart means missing out on a lot of the great things that make being with someone so great. Building true intimacy and yes, keeping things hot can be a struggle when you’ve got limited face-to-face time which is why you need to be crafty. Keeping your bond strong will require some effort. Don’t just talk on the phone; use your computers for video chats so you can see each others expressions when you’re talking. Web cams are also a GREAT thing if you’re looking to keep things spicy…if you know what I mean. As well, taking the time to write letters to each other or even just send a little note to say ‘I love you’ once in a while is a great way to not only make their day but keep you in their thoughts as well. It’s the little things that a lot of regular couples often forget to do and take for granted, yet these little things will go a long way in helping you have a relationship that withstands the test of time and distance.